Choose the passport
So the next year, when my then-husband insisted I choose between having a mortgage and family with him or travelling overseas without him, my heart and gut voted with my passport. I went off adventuring around the world, making all sorts of mistakes across all areas of my life, though thankfully not too illegal or fatal. It wasn’t until my 40s that my heart and gut started reconnecting with my head.
Some people thought I gained the wisdom that supposedly comes with age, but that is not true. Wisdom comes from applying knowledge, and learning from mistakes – it has nothing to do with the number on your birthday card. No, in my 40s I accidentally discovered personal development on steroids through 12 months of regular full-on immersion trainings that totally shifted my beliefs and even identity.
I had once loved to read ‘Sum of Us’ interviews in the Brisbane News, fascinated that people in their 20s and 30s could even think to establish their own businesses. I assumed then that I would have a job, employed in someone else’s dream, all my working life. Thankfully, that changed.
I studied the personal development techniques I was benefiting from so much, and applied them in my role at the time as a state mentor co-ordinator for a national social enterprise. My responsibilities included recruiting, screening, training and supporting 200+ volunteer mentors for our various youth mentoring programs, plus training our field staff how to best train and support their students being matched to the mentors. As rewarding as it was, the price I had to pay over the years became too high as it affected my health and travel plans. So, the same year I took out my first mortgage, at 45, I resigned and launched my own business as a Master Practitioner of NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming), A small dream, but unfulfilled, and the pain of regret was immeasurable. Hypnosis and Results Coaching. Joining a well-established natural therapies clinic, my speciality was unexplained infertility, and I also helped clients suffering with anxiety, depression, weight reduction and smoking.
Read Sue’s story in the first edition of Honestly Woman magazine.