Life is not certain. There are no guarantees. None. Opportunities never come when it’s convenient. It’s always messy. People will judge and criticise you whatever you do.
Twenty-eight years ago, I made some huge life-changing decisions. In the space of just a few weeks, I decided to leave my husband of 12 years, leave my corporate job of 15 years, sell my house, sell my car and move to another country.
At the time, those around me laid all their fears on me – what if something goes wrong? What if things don’t work out? What are you going to do?
I did it anyway. Not because I’m brave and have no fear, but because at that moment, it was the only possible thing for me to do. There were no other options. I had to take a chance on myself.
In February 2017, 28 years later, I did it all again. I left my husband of 27 years, my B&B business of 17 years, my house in France which is now for sale, and I moved back to the UK.
The only difference this time is the time it took me to come to this decision. Instead of taking just a few weeks, it’s taken me over seven years.
But I did it anyway. Despite being terrified. Despite that fact that it may have looked irrational.
You see, when we try to make rational, logical and reasonable decisions we ignore the voice of our hearts.
There were a gazillion reasons why I should have stayed in France and I believed them for years and years, even though my intuition was telling me to leave.
But what about the house?
What about the B&B?
What about – I have no money, it’s our family home, the kids grew up there, it’s a beautiful place, it’s Champagne!!! … and blah blah blah and on and on – and so I stayed.
If I had the money, I’d leave.
If I had somewhere to go and a way to support myself, I’d leave.
If I could be certain of the way forward, I’d leave.
What will people think?
I’ll stay and make it work.
I won’t give up.
How could I be so ungrateful?
I’m too old now.
It’s too late.
Then I woke up.
I realised that it’s not going to be any easier next year.
The way will show itself when I make a commitment to myself.
I needed to trust the voice from inside – my intuition.
Life is not certain. There are no guarantees. None.
Opportunities never come when it’s convenient. It’s always messy. People will judge and criticise you whatever you do.
Listen to your intuition and you’ll never go wrong. It always acts in your best interests, even if it doesn’t quite look like you expected it to.
In the words of Eleanor Roosevelt: “It’s your life – but only if you make it so. The standards by which you live must be your own standards, your own values, your own convictions in regard to what is right and wrong, what is true and false, what is important and what is trivial. When you adopt the standards and the values of someone else or a community or a pressure group, you surrender your own integrity. You become, to the extent of your surrender, less of a human being.”
I know that by creating this freedom for myself, something will happen. The Universe responds to our intentions, thoughts and emotions. My role in creating a new future for myself is to hold the vision of what I want and let the Universe step in.
My vision now is to create amazing transformational events for women like me who stay stuck in relationships that don’t serve them because they’re too terrified to make a change.
For women who want to break free from a life or business that doesn’t light them up – but their identity is wrapped up in it, and so they are afraid to destroy what they perceive as their credibility.
For women who want to experience and feel their own magic power and live their lives in true authenticity and integrity – but they are censoring themselves because of their fear of what others may say.
These intimate retreats are a magical, life-changing experience, where we’ll unpick life-long patterns and fear and put women back together again, to make the difference in the world that they want to make, and live a life worth living.